Friday, October 16, 2009

"high need" baby

We had our 2 month appointment yesterday and it was very interesting. Dr. Neely said that Sadie seems to have colic since her prevacid isn't working and she screams the majority of the day and sleeps so little. He said it just meant she was "high need" and she would grow out of it in a month or so. What a PC term for fussy! The good news is that nothing physically or clinically is wrong with her, she just is "expressive" in her communication. My mom said that I was the same for the first 3 months of my life too! It makes me appreciate the 3 kids in 3 years she managed do do so gracefully!

Sadie weighed 9 lbs and 8oz and is almost 23 inches long, she is in the 75th percentile in length and 25th in weight. I always hated when moms said percentiles, like she passed some test and here I am saying the same thing! THE reason is that he is a little concerned that she isn't gaining weight as quickly as he would like so I am supplementing with formula more. We go back in 2 weeks for follow-up. The other funny/sad thing is the conversation he had with me about antidepressants and reaching out for help. I guess the tear streaked face and messy new mom made him feel the need to ensure I was not going to crack up. I assured him I was good, just tired and stressed about not being able to comfort her. She will calm down for other people, hopefully the next month will make it all go away. I hate wishing for her to be older because she will never be this age again. I don't mean to sound ungrateful or like I don't love her, I am just being honest about how I feel so I will remember one day. I know how blessed I am and I love her so much.

It was an interesting week, I have been sick and having severe stomach pains so when she does sleep it is almost impossible for me to. I had an ultrasound today and should know if it is gallstones like the doctor thinks, hopefully it is nothing difficult. It seems there is always something this last month! At least none of it is serious.

I made a trip to Target with Sadie by myself the other day. I was feeling so proud of how I was managing to shop for groceries and keep Sadie occupied when she started having a serious meltdown. I mean red-faced hyper screaming! I had a dilemma of a full cart and no food in the house or I could leave. I chose to stay and finish while she screamed up and down the aisles. I had to laugh or I would cry because I had at least 3 people say to me "maybe she is hungry" or have you tried a baby carrier. I mean really?? I realize she is crying, maybe the stressed look on my unshowered face would tell you that I am doing the best I can. If it was as simple as food, I would feed her! People are so funny in their attempts to be helpful.

I appreciate the opportunity to be a mother and go through these crazy times with this special little girl!

6 comments:

Catherine Chaumont said...

Oh, Sarah! Sadie is definitely introducing you to the not so pretty side of mothering. And, seriously, do people think babies are hungry all the time?!! That is so annoying, even though they mean well.

I'm glad you are being honest about those first few months of "baby bliss"! It's really hard to adjust to the not much sleep and then trying to figure out what to do to make that precious angel happy. You are handling it all beautifully and I pray that this next month of high needs is over soon!!! And, I hope your stomach gets better! You need a break!

McCall said...

Girl...I'm reliving my days of when Hudson was a newborn. He was the exact same way. He only slept while being held and we would have to drive him around in the car at night to get him to go back to sleep. He did outgrow the constant fussiness. Hang in there and do whatever it takes to keep your sanity; even if it means laying her down, shutting the door, and taking a moment to regroup! You're doing amazing and Sadie is a lucky girl!

Nicole Fields said...

It is funny how people always try to "help"... A good friend of mine had a baby with colic, I know it is rough! Hang in there. I am sure in a few weeks I will truly be able to relate.

Aaron, Lacey, Audrey and Elle said...

Wow, Sarah, you just described everything I went through with Audrey during her first 2 months! ;) the crying, the disasterous Target trips, the unshowered mom, I know what you're going through and it is HARD. It really does get better though. Once they hit that 3 month mark most of the colic issues are usually gone. Audrey's colic lasted for a couple weeks, but those weeks felt like years to me! Some babies sleep all day and some babies cry all day, no matter what you do. I hope it gets better soon for both of you. Sadie is a lucky baby girl and I know you feel so blessed to have her as well!!

Jaton said...

Oh Sarah! I promise things will get better, and of course you know that. I think we have all been grocery shopping with a baby that is having a melt down. I know I sure have! LOL Also, between your knee and now your stomach you are just having a rough time of it! Hang in there! I'm so glad your mom is down there helping you.

jess trent said...

Honey - we must connect! Maybe later this week? I want to be germ free! Can I come and watch her for you? Thinking of you!